So I have been away from this blog for a little bit, but that was to focus on a few things related to the other blog. Like purchasing the domain name! And trying to figure out ways to market the site!
The BBW Movement is beginning :)
In the meantime, my life is still a hot mess. I am looking around at my surroundings and wondering how I got to this point...but wondering and taking decisive corrective action are two different things. First of all, who has the time (I do, but...) who wants to spend it cleaning and organizing when you fully believe that all of it will be undone? This house has been out of my control for so long that living in the chaos is just another part of my reality.
I am also dealing with a lot of issues in my personal life. There is a saying that when things start to improve in one area of your life, they start to go south in others. Well, I am here to say that it is south all across the board...I am just doing the best I can to make it look like some things are improving.
But, I am inspired to press on anyway. After all, my problems will not be solved by doing nothing, or worse by giving up. And despite the fact that I had some very dark days last week, thankfully the sun has come out and that makes things look brighter.
Anyhoo, stuff to do, people to see and all of that, so smooches until I see you next time!
Thursday, May 26, 2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Won't You Be My Neighbor?
(I had been trying to finish this post for days...now a few weeks later...)
The other night the husband announces that one of our neighbors had recently passed away. This was news to me, since I thought I saw her just a few days ago mowing her lawn (apparently not). He found out by asking another neighbor about some recent movement at her house that suggested she had moved or that someone had moved in.
Anyway, what irked me was the manner in which the husband made the announcement--as if he was telling me something very random, like the trash needing to go out. How could we live across the street from someone for years and not know that she was sick? Or worse, how did we not notice that we had not seen her in weeks? We must be the worst neighbors in the world.
(Actually, I know that we are not...a recent story was released about the death of a former Playboy playmate whose mummified remains were found by a neighbor after a year!)
One of the great secrets about our neighborhood is that we look like the typical suburban haven often pictured on TV. It offers the real deal of well-manicured lawns, attractive families, walkable sidewalks, racial and ethnic diversity, and the cherry on top of it all is that this all exists within the city limits!
The problem is that like many city folks, we do not actually know our neighbors as well as we should. We know them well enough to speak and wave, and we pay attention enough to know when someone buys a new car, but our interactions tend to be limited to whatever can fit in the space between locking the door of the house to the unlocking of the car door. And despite the fact that I work from home, most of these people have no idea what it is I actually do for a living. In fact, it was just a few months ago that I had an in-depth conversation with one of the neighbors across the street who went to school with me...
So I feel bad about not making much of an effort to know the neighbor who passed away. Of course, a part of me knows that relationships are a two-way street. Maybe she was not all that interested in us. Perhaps she was a private person who kept to herself for a good reason.
I still feel bad. While we were dealing with my mother in law's illness, I cannot help but to think that my neighbor was dying and I was too busy to notice.
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Today, I spoke to the people who moved into her house and talk about awkward. My mind went totally blank and I scurried into the house to keep from looking even more ridiculous. And then an hour or so later, her daughter drove up as I was on my way back out of the house, and essentially the entire scene repeated itself in reverse.
So now I feel like a loser...clearly the look on my face suggested that I know something...but I did not say anything! Argh! I am thinking that if I could rewind time, I might have come up with the appropriate response. And that brings me back, full circle in a way to the initial issue--death is unfair. It robs us of the chance to do or say the things we need to when the time is right or even when the time is wrong. I am sitting here wracked with guilt because I never said anything more than hello to someone who lived across the street from me for close to nine years.
And there is no solution to this, except I can hope that the next time I get a chance to say something, it will be more than just an awkward hello. I am going to write a note of condolence to the family and while it will be several weeks after the fact, my hope is that the gesture will bring some small measure of comfort--even if it is coming several weeks after the fact. As for my other neighbors, I will continue to speak and hopefully, they will attempt the same.
The other night the husband announces that one of our neighbors had recently passed away. This was news to me, since I thought I saw her just a few days ago mowing her lawn (apparently not). He found out by asking another neighbor about some recent movement at her house that suggested she had moved or that someone had moved in.
Anyway, what irked me was the manner in which the husband made the announcement--as if he was telling me something very random, like the trash needing to go out. How could we live across the street from someone for years and not know that she was sick? Or worse, how did we not notice that we had not seen her in weeks? We must be the worst neighbors in the world.
(Actually, I know that we are not...a recent story was released about the death of a former Playboy playmate whose mummified remains were found by a neighbor after a year!)
One of the great secrets about our neighborhood is that we look like the typical suburban haven often pictured on TV. It offers the real deal of well-manicured lawns, attractive families, walkable sidewalks, racial and ethnic diversity, and the cherry on top of it all is that this all exists within the city limits!
The problem is that like many city folks, we do not actually know our neighbors as well as we should. We know them well enough to speak and wave, and we pay attention enough to know when someone buys a new car, but our interactions tend to be limited to whatever can fit in the space between locking the door of the house to the unlocking of the car door. And despite the fact that I work from home, most of these people have no idea what it is I actually do for a living. In fact, it was just a few months ago that I had an in-depth conversation with one of the neighbors across the street who went to school with me...
So I feel bad about not making much of an effort to know the neighbor who passed away. Of course, a part of me knows that relationships are a two-way street. Maybe she was not all that interested in us. Perhaps she was a private person who kept to herself for a good reason.
I still feel bad. While we were dealing with my mother in law's illness, I cannot help but to think that my neighbor was dying and I was too busy to notice.
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Today, I spoke to the people who moved into her house and talk about awkward. My mind went totally blank and I scurried into the house to keep from looking even more ridiculous. And then an hour or so later, her daughter drove up as I was on my way back out of the house, and essentially the entire scene repeated itself in reverse.
So now I feel like a loser...clearly the look on my face suggested that I know something...but I did not say anything! Argh! I am thinking that if I could rewind time, I might have come up with the appropriate response. And that brings me back, full circle in a way to the initial issue--death is unfair. It robs us of the chance to do or say the things we need to when the time is right or even when the time is wrong. I am sitting here wracked with guilt because I never said anything more than hello to someone who lived across the street from me for close to nine years.
And there is no solution to this, except I can hope that the next time I get a chance to say something, it will be more than just an awkward hello. I am going to write a note of condolence to the family and while it will be several weeks after the fact, my hope is that the gesture will bring some small measure of comfort--even if it is coming several weeks after the fact. As for my other neighbors, I will continue to speak and hopefully, they will attempt the same.
Monday, May 02, 2011
What a Day...
So, last night when the news broke that U.S. forces had killed Osama bin Laden, the husband and I were watching a movie...And then he decided that we should head down to the White House to witness the celebrations...And though I went along, I was not really feeling it...
Because I remember 9/11. And the panic that followed. Such as having to remove my shoes at Logan Airport. Or being instructed to buy reams of duct tape and plastic sheeting to seal up my house. And so, I do not think the resolution of that day should have been marked by the drunken opportunistic patriotism of clueless teenagers--most of whom were children when the towers fell.
Because I remember 9/11. And the panic that followed. Such as having to remove my shoes at Logan Airport. Or being instructed to buy reams of duct tape and plastic sheeting to seal up my house. And so, I do not think the resolution of that day should have been marked by the drunken opportunistic patriotism of clueless teenagers--most of whom were children when the towers fell.
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Chal-Lunge!
I could not wait to write this...but if I did not know this previously, I am convinced that Barack Obama is an f-ing genius!
Yesterday, with the predictable fallout and hand-wringing over the release of his birth certificate to silence his critics, we all got hyped over the fact that he had to prove what we already knew. And we were mad that he had to prove anything. And while we all know that they will never accept his legitimacy and that there could be a range of reasons why (including race, fear of Islam, stupidity, etc.)...I just had an epiphany.
The birth certificate release was not done to silence the critics. It was done to rally the troops.
Yesterday, with the predictable fallout and hand-wringing over the release of his birth certificate to silence his critics, we all got hyped over the fact that he had to prove what we already knew. And we were mad that he had to prove anything. And while we all know that they will never accept his legitimacy and that there could be a range of reasons why (including race, fear of Islam, stupidity, etc.)...I just had an epiphany.
The birth certificate release was not done to silence the critics. It was done to rally the troops.
Lately...
I've been blogging up a storm! I think that the two weeks I had no computer access caused a backlog of ideas in my head, and now everything is just pouring out like water.
I wrote yesterday over at the BBW blog about fried chicken, then I chickened out and did not publicize it...dunno why except maybe it took me soooo long to finish that it was Thursday and so the point was lost. Not that I was ashamed of what I wrote, but I think that my perfectionism makes it hard for me to just blog and go. If I had done that, then I doubt the piece would have been all that good, but as it stands, I have no idea if anyone will think anything of it now.
However, I like the fact that my blog gets regular readers. And I really like having this on the side to have as an outlet for everything else I am thinking. I did not write here about some of the recent developments in my life yet, but it has been great to have this space as a security blanket of sorts whenever I feel like I have something to say, but am not quite sure whether it needs to be public (which of course it is...but not that public).
I wrote yesterday over at the BBW blog about fried chicken, then I chickened out and did not publicize it...dunno why except maybe it took me soooo long to finish that it was Thursday and so the point was lost. Not that I was ashamed of what I wrote, but I think that my perfectionism makes it hard for me to just blog and go. If I had done that, then I doubt the piece would have been all that good, but as it stands, I have no idea if anyone will think anything of it now.
However, I like the fact that my blog gets regular readers. And I really like having this on the side to have as an outlet for everything else I am thinking. I did not write here about some of the recent developments in my life yet, but it has been great to have this space as a security blanket of sorts whenever I feel like I have something to say, but am not quite sure whether it needs to be public (which of course it is...but not that public).
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Dump Trump, Bale on Palin and other Nonsense
Not that it is a surprise to anyone who knows me, but Donald Trump has gotten me so angry with his idiocy in the past couple of weeks! I cannot believe that it has taken me this long to write about it...(of course, life intervened, so here is my belated take on the Dumpster and his foolishness) and in advance, please accept my apologies since this has all been dying to come out!
My quibble with Donald the Dump is that he is a mean person. Meanness works in America, especially now that everyone is on the we-hate-poor-people-whose-endless-neediness-makes-it-hard-for-me-to-pretend-to-ignore-their-existence bandwagon. I am ashamed to admit that I too had a flash of that sentiment this past week out in California. I complained to the husband about the aggressiveness of the homeless people...and in hindsight, I feel like an ass.
And my remorse stands in stark constrast to the Dumpster--he never feels anything but reinvigorated by his constant denigrations of people. Remember how he treated his so-called friend Martha Stewart after the failure of her spin-off "Apprentice"? Then he was ultra mean to Rosie O'Donnell and while she is no shrinking violet, I definitely remember how his relentless vitriol against her practically sent her over the edge. Now that he wants to generate ratings for his tired show, he takes aim at President Obama, which is fair game since well, that's politics. But then he's been locked and loaded to shoot at anyone who has deigned to call him out--first it was Bill Cosby, followed by Jerry Seinfeld, and I suspect that in a few weeks, he will have insulted more people than a foul odor.
My quibble with Donald the Dump is that he is a mean person. Meanness works in America, especially now that everyone is on the we-hate-poor-people-whose-endless-neediness-makes-it-hard-for-me-to-pretend-to-ignore-their-existence bandwagon. I am ashamed to admit that I too had a flash of that sentiment this past week out in California. I complained to the husband about the aggressiveness of the homeless people...and in hindsight, I feel like an ass.
And my remorse stands in stark constrast to the Dumpster--he never feels anything but reinvigorated by his constant denigrations of people. Remember how he treated his so-called friend Martha Stewart after the failure of her spin-off "Apprentice"? Then he was ultra mean to Rosie O'Donnell and while she is no shrinking violet, I definitely remember how his relentless vitriol against her practically sent her over the edge. Now that he wants to generate ratings for his tired show, he takes aim at President Obama, which is fair game since well, that's politics. But then he's been locked and loaded to shoot at anyone who has deigned to call him out--first it was Bill Cosby, followed by Jerry Seinfeld, and I suspect that in a few weeks, he will have insulted more people than a foul odor.
Thursday, April 07, 2011
Look Out Below
So I did something today that will either turn out to be very smart or very stupid in a few short weeks.
I took a leap of faith. And right now, I must still be in the clouds where everything looks fine. But check me again in a few weeks when the altitude has changed.
Long story short, I made an investment in a business venture to see if this idea I have been nurturing for the past few months can earn me some cash. Not a whole lot of cash is at stake, but the goal is to see if the concept can grow into something profitable.
I took a leap of faith. And right now, I must still be in the clouds where everything looks fine. But check me again in a few weeks when the altitude has changed.
Long story short, I made an investment in a business venture to see if this idea I have been nurturing for the past few months can earn me some cash. Not a whole lot of cash is at stake, but the goal is to see if the concept can grow into something profitable.
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